Rabia Chaudry’s memoir Fatty Fatty Boom Boom is as much about food, love, and family as it is about the social, cultural, and physical pressures on women to look and behave a certain way. Born in Pakistan, Chaudry moved to America as an infant; her parents pursued careers and raised her on the accessible, fatty, rich foods that were common.

Chaudry is quick to point out her love of food. The language she uses when discussing culinary delights in Pakistan runs the gamut from celebratory to revelatory, but she also praises American food: classic American burger garners similar praise to a goat shorba. It is the relationship with food, and its effect on her size, that is the focus of much of the book. Her family comments on her body incessantly, wondering why she is so large in comparison to her thinner, younger sister.

Divorce after an abusive marriage is the catalyst for more dieting, a CrossFit membership, gastric sleeve surgery, and countless other attempts to fix her body until, ultimately, she makes peace with herself. Fatty Fatty Boom Boom is an exceptional look into a single life that resonates deeply. It is funny, deep, sad, and strong–all things we should hope to be ourselves.